You Are Where You Should Be
In the past few months I've had about ten conversations with people saying they feel like they're stuck, unmotivated and need to pivot from their current position in life.
Whenever I've felt stuck (which is often) or not flipping what life's frying I ask myself three questions. Why do I want to change? What do I want to feel? How do I want to spend my time? I personally think it helps to list things out, write fake life plans, set ridiculous goals, get carried away and be a dreamer for five minutes then get serious and figure out what the hell I actually want and why.
Honestly though, I think that wherever you are right now is exactly where you are supposed to be.
Yes that is correct!
Because if you think you feel stuck- that might be you wanting something different or more. Real talk though, If you really want something bad enough, you will go and get it. I say this because sometimes I think we aren't 100% honest with ourselves. We get side tracked by others achievements, goals and motivations and we don't fully understand their journey.
So be serious, ask the questions- why do you think you want to be a 5 Star Michelin chef / pro ball player / own a business selling only antique teapots / write your autobiography even though you're 20 (IDK right, ok? These are your goals)? What will it make you feel? Is that really how you want to spend your time? If it's not a fuck yes, it's a fuck no friends. Go and change your goal posts to something you actually want.
If you think you're constantly complaining and saying you want to move on but never actually do, that responsibility falls on - yep, you. Guess you don't really want to write that award winning autobiography about becoming a pro ball player after leaving your stellar career as a 5 Star Michelin chef because you wanted more than your humble beginnings selling only antique teapots as a child..... Savage. It's completely ok to talk it out with friends and map your journey- but if it's been five years of the same talky talk and no walky walk, make some changes or be ok with where you are.
You are where you should be. So are you content or is it time to change?